7 Ways to break the Ice & make A Conversation With Anyone
1. The first word flood Gates- My advice Just say it.
Suppose you are in the room with someone you don’t know & you look across the room and you see a stranger and something within you says that I want to talk with this person & you know something that mostly happens with all of us , You wanted to say something the First word. It just won’t come out.It feels like it stuck somewhere and refused to come out. I know the feeling & here is my advice “Just Say it”.
Just think what the worst could happen. They won’t talk with you. Well they are not talking with you now.
I truly believe that once you said first word everything else just gets flows. So keep it simple “Hi” ,”Hey” or Hello & do what the best person in you does gather all of the enthusiasm, the energy, put on a big smile and say “Hi”.
2.Skip the small talk.
You know everyone of us including me sometimes face this problem everyday.You have limited time with that person you want to talk & you want to make this talk memorable.
Honestly if we stuck in the rut of “hi” ,”Hello”,”How are you?”, what’s going on ?, Nothing much , Sab badiya! . If you do this you will fait to give initial jolt to the conversation that can make conversation memorable.
So I urge you to “Skip the small talk and ask the really personal question and don’t be afraid”. Trust me you ll be surprised to see how much people are willing to share if you just ask.
So ask any personal question regarding his/her interesting name Any story behind this ?, how long he/she living in this city & do you remember first day you landed in this beautiful city etc etc. There are enormous ways of asking personal question which people won’t bite to answer trust me on that!!.
3.Find the Me Too’s:
When you meet the person for the first time make an efforts to find the things which you and that person is in common so that you can build the conversation from that point. When you start conversation from that point & then move outwards from there you ll find all of the sudden that conversation become lot more easier. That is because both of you on the same side of god knows something which common to both you.
That’s the powerful thing!!.
4. Pay a unique complement.
I read somewhere that people will forget what you do, they forget what you said,but they never forget how you made them feel & how you treated them. So be generous get your daam ego out sometimes & give someone a genuine complement. But be cautious that complement should be genuine & unique to the person and it mostly never be unheard off.
Let me give you an example, couple of years back when I was at hardrock café in pune there I met a gorgeous girl. Turn’s out she is a model. Hearing that I looked at her and said “Wow! You are beautiful” & to my surprize there was no reaction on her face & I think to myself How??. That’s when I realized she is immune to the word “beautiful”. Because she might heared 1000 of times till now.
So try and construct a complement that is unique and genuine complement & don’t lie please. People can sense that.
5. Ask for an opinion
We all have an opinion & we all want them to be heard & Everybody wants a validation.So go ahead and ask for an opinion.There you have open a two way street,That’s when the real communication begins & you ll be surprised to see how much you can pick up from the person just by asking there opinion on generic things.
Here is a mistakes that some people makes.They ask your opinion on really difficult things Eg: Someone asks your opinion about rise in a oil prices and their impact on the inflation. It feels like awkward to answer that if you don’t know the subject matter at all, isn’t it ?
So just ask something simple and keep it generic like “How do you like a coffee?”, “When the last time you watched a movie?” & when someone gives you their opinion be sure to “LISTEN”.
Imagine you are pouring your heart to someone and he/she just busy on their phone chatting & if you ask for their attention you get a response “ I can multitask”.
So when someone tries to communicate with you just be in that communication whole heartedly. And my favourate part “Make an eye contact”.
Trust me eye contact is where all the magic happens. When you make an eye contact you can feel the conversation. & Let me boost up your motivation while talking when you look in their eyes 9 out of 10 times they will not look away.
7. Name, Places, Animal Things.
You all came onto a conversation where you met the person ,after some time you met again and you forgot the name of the person. Isn’t that awkward, If they play the game with you tell me my name?.
So remember the little details of the people you met or you talked with may be the places they been to , the places they want to go, the things they like, the things they hate whatever there is.
When you remember such things you can automatically become investor in their well being. So they fell responsible to you to keep that conversation going.
That’s it. 7 amazing ways that you can make conversation with almost anyone. Trust me every person is a really good book to read to or to have a conversation with.
考试中的题目是：Five ways to make conversation with anyone
A. be present
B. just say it
C. ask for an opinion
D. name, places, things
E. find the "me too"s
F. pay a unique compliment
G.skip the small talk